Bleedsblue&white
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The way you posed the question was a bit abrupt, could have gone either way. Best to not comment on significant others.
Yep, always figured that was a good rule.
The way you posed the question was a bit abrupt, could have gone either way. Best to not comment on significant others.
Nobody likes the concept of a pre nup. I'm getting married because I want to spend my life with this woman, but sometimes life ****s up relationships that started out strong as ****. We used to hear about "handshake" business deals and such too, but that has rightfully died off as a manner of conducting business. This is no different if there's any sort of financial imbalance in the relationship. I could easily maintain a relationship without their being legal status attached to it, so if I'm being asked to do something I don't need to do, then I just need to know that I'm protected to a certain degree if things go sideways. It's one of the few items in society where people are shit on for protecting themselves legally, it's weird.
It's totally weird. But it stems from the love conquers all philosophy, which unfortunately has been badly debunked in the last several decades, yet still lingers on on some emotional level.
Can't believe I'm the one to say this but some women earn their share. It's not easy raising kids. Some men like to think stay at home wives have it easy, that's not normally the case.
Yeah you did everything you could do but a good lawyer can get out of it. I've seen it happen all too often. Marriage contracts in Canada are shit. If you have anything about home ownership in it forget about it. That shit is not even remotely binding. The other stuff can be binding but even then, it can all be fought. She doesn't need to know that though.
Best you can do is keep your funds separate and hope she doesn't challenge too much if the time comes. The beauty about these contracts is that it makes things a hell of a lot easier during a divorce. A good marriage contract should be simple and straight forward. You take from pile A, she takes from pile B and you go on about your seperate ways.
Can't believe I'm the one to say this but some women earn their share. It's not easy raising kids. Some men like to think stay at home wives have it easy, that's not normally the case.
Absolutely...which is why I don't argue even a little bit about a 50/50 split of assets that are generated from the date of marriage onward regardless of the relationships composition. Even if there's no child raising involved, if the bread winner let's their partner do non income earning things with their time, don't cry when they want half of the assets generated during the marriage.
My qualm is only about what was generated before the marriage.
The kicker is, the old system was shit. Abusive spouse? Stay with him. Hate each other's guts? Stay together for the kids! You don't want to die alone do you??
All sorts of nonsense social pressures trying to keep people from actually being happy in life. The sooner we clear all of that bullshit societal baggage from the decks the better. I'm entirely good with egalitarianism.
I'd never remarry.
Humans are not made to be with one person for 60 yrs. It is only recently that started because we live longer.Sure... marriage "should" be a one time thing. However, some people change and some even hide their true selves for years.
That's not to say that people should bolt as soon as there are troubles, but when those troubles become insurmountable... then it's probably time to move on. And who knows... maybe try again someday.
Not always the best advice.Agreed. To your point and his though, I’d say that people should get married later.
No guy should marry before 35. And girls before 27/28. You just don’t know yourself yet and there’s much change still coming in the near term. Have a bunch of relationships and then marry when you find the best one and you don’t even want to go out with other people anymore.
35 as the earliest date a guy should get married seems too conservative for me, but in general, I agree with the point.Agreed. To your point and his though, I’d say that people should get married later.
No guy should marry before 35. And girls before 27/28. You just don’t know yourself yet and there’s much change still coming in the near term. Have a bunch of relationships and then marry when you find the best one and you don’t even want to go out with other people anymore.
If you're not married by 35 stay single forever. The sweet spot is 28-32. The only reason to ever get married is for kids and having them at 35 does not seem appealing to me personally. Get married at 28, wait a year or two.. have kids at 30-32. By the time you're mid to late 40s you're basically in the clear if you raised them right.35 as the earliest date a guy should get married seems too conservative for me, but in general, I agree with the point.
If I'd gotten married between the ages of 18 through to my mid-20's, I'm pretty sure I'd be headed towards my first divorce, if I wasn't already there. My outlook on life now, and what I'd be looking for in an ideal spouse today bears almost no resemblance to what it would've been at that point in my life.